What Vulnerability, Brene Brown & Life Coaching with Horses have in Common

I have a confession.
I don’t particularly love writing blogs, long emails, or "marketing" type copy, for that matter. They make me feel vulnerable. I don’t think I am particularly good at it, or know if my emails are “working” or not.  At times my writing has errors, poor grammar, and sounds cheesy. There are so many other people that can express themselves through their writing far, far better than me.

However, I still do it.
I do it because I love sharing the story of how much horses and life coaching have impacted my life. I write these emails, because if I can share my story and help just one other person, it is all worth it. I am inspired enough to do it anyway. 

I write because it’s true for me.
Maybe it’s not perfect, maybe not everyone will ‘get it’. Writing something to share publicly brings up so much vulnerability it’s unnerving at times.

Then, there are those nagging questions from the small voice in the back of my mind.
You know the ones I bet.  They say “What if no one gets it?”, “Why does it matter?”, and “Who am I to do this?”

Now when those nagging voices come up, I have an answer for them.
I have the answers because of the work I have done with horses and the talented life coaches who facilitate these experiences. It matters. If for anything else, it matters because it matters to me.

 

 

Horses don’t question themselves.
They don’t ask “Who am I to be a Life Coaching Horse?” or “What if no one gets what I am trying to do?” Instead, time and time again they just show up in the arena with a person and put their big hearts right out on the line. They don’t concern themselves with being vulnerable or not. It happens every time.

Horses have a lot to teach us about how we show up.
If there is one lesson I have learned from horses, it is that when we over think things, place too much emphasis on what other people will think, or try to 'armor up' with a tough persona, it simply doesn't work. Plus, it is exhausting.

Horses naturally mirror our presence. 
When we drop our need to do something perfectly, to perform for an audience, or get it right in order to gain approval, we can stop trying to be something or someone else. That is also when I see horses able to connect with humans, in a real, authentic way.

It is okay to share what it is on your heart.
Because being vulnerable is where the true power and connection is. Connection to ourselves and those around us. Ironically, the acceptance, validation, and connection we are attempting to get by NOT showing our vulnerability is EXACTLY the opposite of what we actually need.
 

 

 

It is the very moments in the arena with a horse when I have been my most raw, real, and imperfect, that the magic happens.  
The horses and I are most in sync, I am more in sync with myself, and I am not trying to be anything I am not. Nor do I need to be anything else.

I get to drop the mask. I get to just be me.
I get to show up, and feel more powerful than I did before I opened up. I get to be more authentic, and not try so damned hard all the time.

Researcher and author, Brene Brown says it best:
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
 
Showing up in the arena with a horse cuts through to what matters most.
“When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make. Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.”

- Brene Brown, Daring Greatly

 

Click Here To Listen to Brene Brown & Oprah Discuss Vulnerability

 

 

It is just like what Brene & Oprah are talking about.
Vulnerability and openness is not weakness.

Vulnerability is POWER.
We are hardwired to crave connection. But when we try too hard to fit in, be a certain way, or act like we think we should, we are keeping the very thing we want away from ourselves.

 

My Wish For Us.
I share these words with you because I have the desire to DO what it is that feels vulnerable, raw, and real. To have deeper connections with myselft and others. So that we DON'T squander any more of our precious days staying small, or unseen.

Do you long to feel more connected?
Reach out to someone. Share what it is that you really want, without attachment to their response. Are you curious how feeling vulnerable can actually make you feel more powerful?

I'd love to hear from you.
Send me a note. Sign up for a free call. It's all on my website here.

We all belong.
I see you. The real you. The horses do too.

 

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